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New Year’s Eve theme was Disney. Of course I had my nails done to match my costume!
While most people dress up once or twice during the month of October, my nails wear a costume for couple of weeks
I asked a friend for his input on a nail design. He suggested tiger stripes or a flame job. I think Kathy, my nail technician, would have fainted if I had asked her for a flame job.
In honor of Comic Con 2017. While I didn’t attend the convention, I did enjoy dinner with a gentleman who restores comic books.
2016 was the first time my kids and I walked in the San Diego Pride Parade with my then new company. Without a doubt, it was a blast. From the great energy of the Sony team members walking in the parade, to the fun music and awesome Sony swag we got to distribute to the hordes of people lining the street, the event was memorable. Exhausted yet energized at the end of the parade route, my kids and I joined the throngs of people visiting the food, education, and commerce booths, and we listened to music performed at the various stages positioned throughout the park. We hung out at the Sony sound stage for a while, first to help set up PlayStations for guests to enjoy, and then to help guests play the then newly released MLB game.
Attending events meant to raise awareness, educate, and come together as an inclusive community has far-reaching benefits. Sometimes, those benefits are felt much closer to home. A few weeks after the event, during a drive to Michael’s to pick up supplies for a school project, my youngest child opened a dialog with me.
“Mom, I have something to tell you. I’m a little nervous. I know you’re going to be okay, I know you’re going to support me.” We were at a stop light, so I could give them most of my focused attention.
“You can tell me anything,” I said.
“Okay. Well. Mom, I’m Bi.”
I thanked them for trusting me. I celebrated their self-discovery and self-actualization. I knew they felt supported and was ready to move on when they asked, “What’s for dinner?” I can’t help but chuckle over my child’s resiliency; how quickly they transitioned from getting something off their chest to getting something into their tummy.
That night, after my kids were tucked into their beds for the night, I pondered what my youngest child shared. How do I support them and ensure their safety? What can I do to ensure they continue to feel supported and accepted? Oh, dang! I’m a writer and I didn’t think to ask what their preferred pronoun is! Something I addressed the next morning.
“Whatever, mom,” was their eloquent reply. “He, she, it. I like ‘it’. It’s all good” I then learned how many of the kids in middle school and high school figure out what gender use. They ask, “what’s your pronoun?” Huh, no guessing or making assumptions, just straight forward and accepting language. I find it fascinating how our youth can be excellent sources of information when it comes to navigating diversity linguistically.
Having volunteered with the Equality ALLiance at Sony for the Diversity Speaks panel put me in-touch with members of Sony’s LGBTQ community, and I feel fortunate to be an ally with this dynamic group. I have had the privilege of engaging in frank, open dialogues with many of the volunteers, which I believe has helped me better parent my gender-fluid child. I believe strongly in supporting the rich diversity of our community, and I am proud to work for a company who not only shares my beliefs but demonstrates their commitment to building an inclusive, intersectional world.
I gave my icebreaker speech today, and it went well. I’m already looking for ideas for my next speech. The feedback I received was glowing, and I’m glad I spent as much time rehearsing as I did.
Following is the transcript from today’s speech. Enjoy!
Music accompanies us during many of our major live events, for example graduations and wedding. Music scores our daily lives, be it Muzak in elevators, soft jazz in boutiques, or to whatever station we have our cars radios tuned.
When I was a young child, in the late spring and early summer, my mom and grandma would pack up the station wagon and take us to Torrey Pines State Beach for the grunion run and annual bonfire. After the sun goes down grunion begin to swim to shore and burrow into the sand to lay their eggs. After they finish spawning, they slip into the rip tide and return to the sea. My 4 brothers and I would wade in the water up to our calves, bent over with our hands skimming below the surface hoping to grab a fish as it swam by. While many fish tickled our toes, we never caught any. Worn out and wet, we’d make our way to the ring where mom had build a raging fire and granny had laid out blankets for us sit on. After serving dinner, grandma pulled out her trusty concertina and we all sang by the light of the silvery moon, both literally and lyrically.
In case you haven’t guessed, my brothers and I were raised by our mom and grandma. There were many a night when my mom came home from work close to our bedtime. While she wanted to spend time with us individually before we drifted off to sleep, she couldn’t be in 5 different places at once. Instead, she would sit in the hallway between our rooms, strumming her guitar as she sang us to sleep.
While my mom and grandmother shared with us crooners and folk artists, my older brothers brought us musically current. As soon as we were all loaded into the station wagon on our way to wherever, the radio had to be tuned to a pop station. I remember two songs in particular that when they played, we all sang at the top of our lungs, American Pie, and The Night Chicago Died. I don’t know why those songs stick in my head, but they do. Perhaps because it was during that time I truly understood what it meant to sing on key, and that two of my brothers, the twins, are tone deaf.
One morning shortly after I began 7th grade, my math teacher announced openings in Orchestra, no experience necessary. I was glad of the distraction because he was beginning the dreaded fractions unit. I signed up for orchestra, why not? I learned to play concert bass, matching notes to tape squares I had affixed to the neck of my bass. For the next two years I played classical, pop, and bluegrass. By the way, I aced the fractions unit. Must have been something about dividing notes appropriately into 4/4 time that helped.
When I matriculated to high school, the musical director said they had too many bass player already and asked if I would be interested in learning to play the cello instead. He lent me a cello on which to practice and arranged for free music lessons. Over the summer I met with the music director’s wife, who taught string instruments, every week. While most of my classmates were attuned to sounds of the time, glam rock, punk rock, and top 40s, I was rehearsing Bach, Brahms, and Beethoven. Come on and Rock me Amadeus.
My musical sound track began with children’s song, Adagio’d into folk songs, big bands, crooners, and psychedelic pop (it was the Age of Aquarius, after all). Next I Gavotted into classical, bluegrass, and Disco, (I know I’m not the only one who was Lips Inc-ing to Funkytown!). And then I landed once again into the magical world of children’s music. While my three kids discovered Puff the Magic Dragon, I was mildly concerned about exactly how many times the wheels on the bus could go round and round before I was ready to puncture the tires. Fortunately, a new favorite song came along before I went over the tire-slashing edge.
Remember I mentioned singing in the car with my brothers, mom and grandma? I take great pleasure in carrying on that tradition with my kids. I love listening to them sing along to their favorite songs, and I’m amazed at how easily they remember the lyrics.
Shortly after the last snowfall this year, I bundled up my 3 kids and their friends and we drove up to Pine Valley, where they could indulge their curiosity about snow angels, snowmen, and snowball fights. For the record, snow is cold and wet! The Twenty One Pilots CD Vessel played all the way up to Pine Valley, and all the way back. By the end of our adventure, I knew about half the lyrics to all songs.
For my birthday last year, my kids surprised me with a sunset tea party. When I came home from work, I was ushered out the the back yard where they had laid out blankets and pillows, mugs of steaming tea, and a light dinner. They had prepared a playlist, today’s version of a mixed tape, of my favorite songs, to which we all sang.
While Twenty One Pilots and Panic! at the Disco might be their go-to bands, they’re open to listening to a variety of other genres, too. I recently asked them: If you listen to E-mo and Scream-o, does that mean you like MeMo? They think I’m weird. I know they’re right.
I have shared with you how the threads of music have been woven into the tapestry of my life. I invite you to take a moment and reflect on the songs that have scored yours.
I joined Toastmasters International, and for the last couple of months I have been rehearsing my first speech. Tomorrow is the day I speak the words I have been practicing; I’m ready, yet nervous.
After giving my speech tomorrow, I will post it here.
Okay, deep, calming breath…
It’s so much fun coming up with nail design themes. I must say, I didn’t expect the response I’ve received from these! Men stopped me to admire them, a few took photos for their girlfriends and wives. Mom’s mentioned they are clever, and kids think they’re cool. Cathy, my nail technician at Finesse Nails, outdid herself once again!
I didn’t have a design in mind when I went to get my nails done yesterday. While soaking my feet in warm, sudsy water and relaxing into the massage chair (it’s d’bomb), I searched for Summer nail designs on my cell phone (I love technology). I pondered two possibilities, strawberries, and sharks. Cathy, my nail technician, looked at the strawberries with little enthusiasm. I showed her the sharks, and she asked: “what’s that?” When I told her the design theme was shark infested waters, she exclaimed “that one!” She was quite excited about the idea.
She picked out colors and then began creating. Oh, I have shark toes, too.
My youngest child has been promoted to seventh grade. No longer will I walk the halls as a parent of a child attending the elementary each of my kids have spent so much of their childhood.
When my baby girl was in Kindergarten, her teacher made a point of pointing out my daughter’s writing examples saying, “your daughter has a gift.” While it’s true the writing examples were fun to read and were a little different from her peers, I thought it was a good teacher praising her student for the parent’s benefit. My ears perked up a bit when her first grade teacher made similar comments. I finally understood what her teachers were attempting to convey to me when her second grade teacher spelled it out in no uncertain terms: “Your daughter has a voice.” This teacher explained how second graders began exploring their writing in patterns, and she showed us examples of what pattern writing looks like for kids seven years old. Then she took several examples of my daughter’s writing, and, as the expression goes, I couldda had a V-8!”.
Writing became a hobby for my baby girl. She created worlds in Minecraft, and then wrote stories to accompany her creations. Sometime this past year, she got into writing fan fic. I’m surprised, delighted, and wow’d at my daughter’s ability to convey concepts, thoughts and ideas, using a style that is all her own.
When it comes to writing, showing is preferred over telling. Following is my daughter’s last elementary writing project: BioMe. I invite you to read her memoir.
I take a deep breath. I was really nervous for the first day of school. I looked up at my mom as she held my and walked into class. I didn’t know what to think as people stared at me. She hugged me before walking out. I was scared. Keep Reading